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300 Writing prompts Number 7: What is one of your greatest blessings?

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7 prompts into the 300 writing prompts and this one popped up for me and I would say that the greatest blessing is having family in your life. It’s funny you’re born, your parents have this thing called a child and they somehow have to dress it up. My family has been there for me to give me many things and you just wonder if sometimes it is luck of the draw. I know of friends and family where they struggled early on to gain any sort of familial support in their journey. I can say in my recent years that my family has supported with my decisions. The two things that I wanted to accomplish in the last ten years was to buy a car and finish school. I ended up accomplishing both in the last year and I could have done both without their support. I also recently noticed that no matter things may get or if you end up upset at each other at the end of the day, they will be there for you to welcome you with open arms. One example I can think of where they were there for me was when I had been going through my transition of going from community college to upper division at San Jose State.

 

I mentioned this earlier but I think what happened along the way was that they gave me the motivation to be better than I was. I needed the extra push from my family to do well because I saw them struggle when I was younger. I saw sometimes how my mom would come home sometimes at 6 at night from work taking the bus or my dad who would come sometimes at midnight from work. I would see the little sacrifices made here and there so we can enjoy a better life one day. Every year we would save up and go to Mexico to enjoy the family we had over there. This is before everyone had kids and had obligations and before the world started moving so fast. I felt that back then that my parents wanted to give their own blessings a little taste of who and what their families were like. I can remember every summer we would spend at Grandma’s and everyone was just free and on their own.

 

To me, this was a blessing behind a blessing because every summer we would see the same cousins and people we knew. I could see that my family wanted us to bond with our family so they can see that expanded family was also a part of us as well. My fondest memory of us all being together was back in 2004 as our time was winding down and me and my cousins were bonding over random conversations. You can see from the beginning that our family wanted nothing but the best for us. I’m grateful for these memories and many others. The human body is susceptible to certain illnesses and one that comes to mind was when my dad was going through a skin disorder and I had to take him and back and forth to appointments. The hardest part was knowing that this person was in your life and now you had to care for them. I bonded with my dad at that point because this was the period in his life when he was still going through his restaurant job as well. We would stay up and watch wrestling together on Mondays and now in some ways that was being taken away from me. He would ask me how and why these wrestlers were fighting and I would need to explain it to him. I was so happy about this whenever we would get the chance to do this but like I said now it was being taken away from me. The moments when I would see him struggle reminded me of the times when I would see him come home late after work and he would still be there to go along with his kids and enjoy their time together. Recently, I also remember my dad would say that he had nowhere as time has gone on, my mom has also started to show some signs of slowing down and this is the impending kidney dialysis that she has with her. I can see her struggling little more now and as time goes on I want to learn as much as possible within the next few years. My brother has given me one of his best blessings which his ability to guide me about various topics. I can remember growing up and the one line that always sticks with me is when I had gotten upset because I was unable to pass my DMV test and he gave me encouragement that day to continue forward. I’m sometimes grateful for him becoming my friend because I learned about how to talk and speak up to people.

 

Before, I was shy and didn’t know how to take things with people. I often credit my brother for helloing me finish my schooling as well because he didn’t finish school and often we look to our brothers for advice as well. As I go through my older years, I eventually want to be that blessing to my sons as well because the greatest gift you can give to a child is a life full of adventure, warmth, love and understanding of living. Blessings give us the ability to see that life works in a funny way. You’re stuck with your family and you learn to function with them every day. I can see as I get older that I am going to stare at whoever, somebody that I have next to me and see my own family growing right before my very eyes. These are the reasons I think we have blessings: To be able to show us that life can be a fun and exciting time as we grow and learn from each other. I also think the experiences we can provide each other as time goes on to talk about and laugh at these times are the wonderful times we can have. Till next time everyone.

Parents…

Posted on by anele25 
las cosas tienen su tiempo y yo
lo lleve temprano,porque querer
tanto a los hijos,algunos padres
fallamos en lugar de darles todo
porqe no los preparamos

-Los Tigres del Norte "Le Compre la muerte a mi hijo"

Parents, what can I say? When you are having a great time with them but when you have your share of differences with them,
you can't stand them. This year, and a little bit after I realized we were struggling financially, my parents started being
more negative about there money situation and I tried my best to not fall into the same trap. I remember when we didn't have
to pay for so many luxuries like a car, car insurance, and utility bills being so high. Yet, I've also seen that growing up
my parents did their best to provide with everything they could. They didn't make the best money nor will they ever but they taught
me a lot about life and also bought in when I wanted to have something. I can make a huge list of all the dumb things I ever asked
my parents for and it still would not justify all the great contributions they made for me. I remember my dad paid for me to go to
science camp in 5th grade up in Saratoga Walden West and we were late on the payments yet he still managed to give the school money. My
mom was also able to make some great sacrifices in my early years as she took me to work with her a few days during summer days.
I didn't do much except help my mom move things in the rooms where she would be working and I would just watch TV most of the
time. I would usually go with her in the morning to take the bus all the way to Palo Alto and I was excited to take those
long bus rides because I saw some cool stuff along the way like some friends that had taken a bus back from where we were
going. My parents were much more active back in the day but now I can see that they are getting old and they prepared me for the
challenges I face today. They taught me to choose my friends wisely and they also acknowledged when and if my friends were
good influences on me. I remember my friend from my old condos would always want to hang out on a Friday or Saturday and
my parents would give their approval if I should go out or not. They would have the money back then to actually give me and
I would spend some money that night on food or going to the mall. I appreciated that a lot and I try my best to give back
to them as best I can. You may always go back to the altar crying and complaining about the money that you are giving your
parents but they didn't complain when they gave it to you. Also, when I didn't drive my mom and myself would go the movies taking
the old #57 bus here in San Jose and going to AMC Saratoga to see a movie I wanted to see and we always enjoyed ourselves.
I miss those times because it was convenient to go to the movies on a weekend and there was never any problem with it either
as she enjoyed the time we spent together. She would take me out to eat and sometimes we would just eat at home. I can honestly
say that seeing that made me realize that my mom did what she did to keep me happy. I didn't keep in close contact with
many of my old friends from before and this is around that time when she would take me to a lot of places even if it was
on the bus. I guess she tried her best to tell me that your friends may leave you but I won't. We don't hang out as much anymore
but I wish we could again someday. Now, she comes home exhausted from working and I can understand that she is tired and
she is trying to pay all the bills we have. Hopefully, once we get all our marbles together maybe this year her and I can go to Mexico and
her native Zacactecas which I always enjoy going to because it's been a while for me but a lot longer for her. Now, my dad
is unique and special to me. He isn't the active, fast paced let's go out animal he was a few years ago and yet I believe
it's because of his age and all the pressures he faces from working so much for so little. I helped him out all I could
when he went on a job search about a year ago and it felt somewhat difficult because he wasn't a native english speaker. I
told him to hang in there and I too paid for food and what not when I could in that time. The reason he is so special to me
is because like my mom he too tried his best his entire life to give me all he could. There have been numerous times where
he has cooked food for me and he didn't have to but he did anyway. He is a big drinker and whenever he drinks he ends up 
pretty wasted but I learned from my dad that drinking to him is a way of escaping and I thought to myself why do it if that's
the only way you'll do it. I understood why he did it but I also learned that being around people like that (my brother and 
his friends and also a few friends of mine) allows you to see that all they want to do is have fun in life and I'm all for
having fun in life. If that's their way of acting out there fun then I say all the power to them because I try my best to make
sure whenever my friends or my brother's friends need a ride home I can be there so that they don't end up doing something 
dumb at the end of the night. My parents have taught me one important lesson as well:Having less money than you did before
allows to bond together and have a common cause. For a while here, I thought we were doing all right with our house payments
and all the other crazy bills we get here at home. However, once we started suffering financially and economically, we had to get our heads
together and figure out solutions for things. In my class yesterday, my professor for History made an interesting point in saying that when 
you're struggling you bond together as a family and when you're having the good times role everyone just goes there own way. 
For a while, I thought that's how I saw it and I could see it when I saw my mom every other four days and I would only see
my dad a little bit every day. Even my brother and myself, who I had been close with for a long time but we drifted apart for 
a while, went our own ways for a bit but this year we have been talking on a more consistent basis because you may not love
your family everyday but when you get older they will be the ones that will be with you in the end. Now, I have a better 
relationship with my parents and with my brother because we have seen each other grow and change as well. I tell my mom that
life is better when you don't have a lot of money and she doesn't believe it but we all have our beliefs. I have a good time
talking to my dad and we share a lot of things in common these days. If it wasn't for my parents, I probably would just be
lost and confused about who I am and I thank them for that. Good day to all and have a good weekend! Here's something that made
makes me think nostalgia:

Merry Christmas everyone…

Posted on by anele25

Remember what Christmas is,we may have thought it was about toys and expensive items when we were younger but it’s about making jokes with your family and remembering old times. I am proud of what happened with my family today because this year we didn’t have as many gifts as past years but we don’t need much to be happy. I have most things I want in life. I have a beautiful pet, great parents who you have disagreements with but you get over it, caring friends, and most of all a very positive and healthy outlook about myself and my future. Remember, if you don’t get what you want at least that person made an effort to at least find you something. If you want it so badly, go out and buy it but ask yourself, do you really need it right away? Be proud of this Christmas and future holidays that lie ahead and look forward to them! Thanks for reading:)