A trip down memory lane…

Don’t be afraid to try again
Everyone goes south
Every now and then
You’ve done it why can’t someone else?
You should know by now
You’ve been there yourself

-Billy Joel on The Stranger

After an exhausting and yet quite worthwhile week of finals, I’m now able to talk about one trip I took down memory lane about a week ago when I went over to my brother’s place to watch TNA wrestling. After we had watched the wrestling show, I wondered about what I had just watched and I was happy I was able to watch some wrestling with my brother. Of course, back un the day my brother and I would watch every Monday on TNT with WCW coming on at 5 PM and WWE would come on at 9 PM which was actually kind of cool because we wouldn’t be like the people on the East Coast flipping back and forth between both shows. We were able to be amused and entertained by both shows at different times and I was also able to watch it with some buddies from my apartments when they weren’t doing other things. Now, you may ask what does this have to do with memory lane? Well, after my brother and I were through with watching wrestling I brought up the fact that our dog Paloma had not gone on her second walk of the day and I should take her. So, my brother being tired and exhausted from having his daughter with him most of the day, I decided to take Paloma myself and I was just going to take her around the apartments that they lived at at first. But, I remembered that our old apartments weren’t that far away and at most it was a ten minute walk there. So, I first went towards my old Elementary school Vargas and I passed the stop sign my mom would leave me at when I was younger. She would leave me at the stop sign and she would go to work. I couldn’t think much about the present and what I had to do within the next week because I was thinking about all the memories I had when I was younger. I started taking the walk that I would take to school by going straight then I went right on this small street. I remember thinking about all the stupid shit my friends and I would talk about when we were walking on that sidewalk. We would talk about school, girls, Dragon Ball, wrestling, and so much more. I passed all the houses thinking how much they must have changed since I last saw them which was about 8 years ago almost. I passed them thinking were the same people still living there? I remember there used to be this girl in my fourth grade class who would live really close by and I would always see her till about my first year of high school and I always thought she was actually kind of attractive. I passed this one house that had two stories wondering how much had happened since I had last seen it. The house was barely being completed when I was still in fifth grade and that was when people started moving into it. I thought with that nice of a house, I wonder how nice they must have it with a neighborhood that isn’t that bad off? I continued my walk just being in awe of what was before me. I feel I’m a very nostalgic person and when I took that walk I felt happy and upbeat because this is the place where I was raised. If it hadn’t been for that time and place, I wouldn’t have had some of the values I have today. Once I got closer to my old apartments I felt chills up my spine and then I saw this little girl that stated to me, “your dog is on the street.”For a split second I thought Paloma really was on the street but I was hanging onto her pretty good because I wanted her to be there too with me. I crossed the street and I just kept walking down the sidewalk towards my apartments and once I passed the managers office I remembered when my dad’s compadre and his son were asleep on the grass right next to the managers and I just smiled for a minute thinking about that. I kept walking on the side where I didn’t live before and I kept getting closer to my old apartment. I passed the entrance to the second half of the apartments and on that side my friends Ralph and Stephen were the ones who used to occupy a two story apartment with there mom and there brothers and sister. I remembered when we were still young and stupid and myself,Stephen, and my other friend Adrian were at Stephen’s house talking about summer school and the funny stuff that would go on there. Memories were just creeping up in my head as I passed the second apartment that was used as our home for about 6 months or so in 2002 and I remembered when we were first moving into that apartment we locked ourselves out and we decided we were going to go to Carl’s JR. with time to kill till my brother had gotten home from work. We waited for my brother to get home that day and I felt relieved because I wanted to see what this place looked like. I don’t have a lot of memories in that apartment because we stayed for only a little bit there but I do remember coming home during the summer and playing Smackdown 2 with my friend Monty and my other friend Adrian. We would have 40 minute matches that would include all three of us and what was just fun how long these things would go until one of us won. Monty would win sometimes and I would win sometimes and Adrian would win as well. Good times I must say indeed! I then saw a gentleman who was getting out of his car near one of the apartments and I didn’t want him to see my dog because they don’t allow pets in the apartments. I waited until he had gotten the food he had in his car until I could bring Paloma along and then I started passing by one of my friends old apartments who went by the name of Tony Olmos. I passed by the apartment thinking about the many times I would go by his house and play some N64. Usually we would play Goldeneye, racing car games, WCW Revenge, and a whole bunch of other games. What I remember most was how nice his family used to be and they were also very friendly every time I went over. They would always be very courteous and since we were all linked almost we would talk about what was going on with our families and such. I then passed by old room at apartment number 29 and I just remember everything that has changed since I have been in that room. I was last in Eighth grade when I was in that room and all the memories I have are priceless. I remember long summer nights and other times when my brother and I would stay in that room just chilling. I remember I would listen to the radio during the weekday and I would watch movies like crazy in that room during my later years. I also remember when my friend and my brother would have sleepovers and we would just laugh about some stupid stuff that was both hilarious and immature. Our friend, Victor, always would make the best company when he would sleep over with us because he was respectful and he had this coolness factor to him every time he would come over. One of my most memorable days there was when September 11th happened and I remember waking up to this shock and disbelief that my country had been attacked. My brother turned on the TV and he was getting ready for school while I was barely waking up. I was surprised to see the rest of my family kind of dumbfounded because they didn’t know what to think or say. I also remember a few instances where in that apartment we would celebrate Christmas and my best memory of Christmas there was when our neighbors, our two uncles came over, and we just had everybody there just happy and I just remember about just being young not having to worry about anything at that time. Once I passed my old apartment I just felt very emotional because I know I can never bring back all the good times I had there because you only live once and I made the best of it. I did everything I wanted to in that apartment from wrestling in our living room, being able to gather in our kitchen to eat dinner, having my “party” for my birthday in my living room, and also having one of my younger cousins’ birthday party in that apartment. I remember that day we had my uncle and his wife celebrating their daughter’s birthday and I wonder now how happy they must have been for their daughter because she was born here and they were born over in Mexico. So many memories, I thought as I roamed on the outskirts of the apartments. The little kid inside came out for a little bit as Paloma and I passed by some of the spots that we would play tag. Tag was a stupid little game that we would play occasionally and it was fun because we would always make it so that the other team would have ten minutes to get back to the deck near our apartments. We would have simple hiding spots but the strategy was to see what the most common spot was. There was the laundry room on the other side of the apartments, near the bushes, the garbage totes, under the stairs near some apartments. Most of the time, the most difficult part was to see how long it would take for the opposing team to make it back to the basedeck. You could say that the stranger came out inside me because I had never actually even thought of going back to my old apartments but when I did I felt it was worth it even more. I remember when my parents bought me a bike and we brought it with us. We went to Smart and Final with it and it was rejoicing to have my family buy me something that was worthwhile. When I started walking down the little hill that cars go down on I just remember the guys and myself having bike races on there and that’s where we would start and whoever would end up back there first after taking a lap would win. Memories I just thought to myself as I kept walking down the hill. I took a peak inside the small boiler room and I remember my friend used to live near there so I just remember the stairs he would take with his mom. I also remember when I kept getting closer to the exit of the apartments that I would always take this small walk to get to the local liquor store in Stop and Go. Stop and Go was pretty amazing because I always remember seeing the arcade there of Mortal Kombat and everybody would want to play it. My best memory there was when my mom bought me some chips for a field trip that I was going to take and the local clerk asked my mom if it was my birthday and she said yes for some odd reason. I remember buying a lot of fake caps for toy guns there because that was the closest place to buy them so whenever I bought them I was excited to pull the trigger. During my exit, I felt proud that I had taken the trip to my old apartments because I felt I had to go back someday to see what it was like and just to reminisce about what it was like before I matured and I became who I am today. If it hadn’t been for living in that apartment, I wouldn’t have learned about respecting people, the connection I began to have with my brother, the hardships my mom would have to make, my dad being strange yet lovable, and my real friends bickering among themselves and with me. I can say that having that experience can only be better and enchanting. After getting back to my brother, I felt happier about what my life had given me at that point in my life and I told my brother about it and he even cracked a small smile when he heard that. I can say that if you are reading this, go back to some old places that you lived before and see how they have changed, for better or for worse, it will be a burden off your shoulders. Good night everyone, and here’s one of the best songs ever:

What in the world was I doing around this time in 2009…

I’m never fessin, possessin the tools that it takes to rock
I think it’s time for the new kid on the block
With a style that’s wild yet so unique
I can’t be stopped from reachin my peak

-Kid on “Kid vs Play (The Battle)”

As I’m writing this I was wondering the other day what was I doing a year ago? I remember that I was embarking on my journey of still working at the big red machine and the stress of Christmas was hindering on me. I was always a second floor person and working with my buddies always seemed more important than actually working. I clearly remember my one time friend Malcolm X was training this guy in the Christmas section named Mark and he seemed pretty decent yet I wasn’t too sure what I thought of him. I remember we were fixing up the store and it was pretty trashed yet I was still intent on working to keep it looking sharp. I also remember being pretty stressed about some assignments that were to be due the following week. I had to do a 10 minute speech in Psychology of adjustment, had 2 papers due in History and I was also had my Psych final the following Tuesday. I knew I had always had a distinct awareness of how much I enjoyed school yet I think the stress I created had a lot to do with how I imagined others would view me. I wanted to do well in everything I did and I was afraid that not only would I fail miserably but I would be letting down everybody that cared about me. I tried my best to manage everything so that I wouldn’t have to do everything at once and what ended up happening was both hilarious and eye revealing. Over the next few days I started writing my first paper on “Coming of Age in Mississippi” and I started getting more and more confident as the writing of the paper continued yet I still had the thought in the back of my head that my speech on “Just Friends” that monday would bomb. A few days prior to the actual speech I had no real plan on what I would say because I had to give a summary of the book and the strong points of the book itself. I had no powerpoint which I thought would just be a waste of time and I had no desire to show my book through slides and pictures. I also was nervously waiting whether my friend who had just quit the Machine would ever come back or was it just an illusion to make me think he was my friend? I tried my best to stay in touch with him but I thought at the time he was adjusting to his new job and he was striving to stay on the right path. Anyway, I also remember the Thursday before finals week my last class with John Gravener consisted of him giving us a low down on what was to be expected for the final. He wanted us to write ANOTHER paper which blew my mind because I couldn’t believe how many papers I had to write. It was take home and it was due the next friday which I found fine but I was stressing having to believe that I now had to write a total of three papers in the span of one week! So, now I had a full workload and I also felt I had to this for myself as well. For me, staying busy is the number one goal people should strive for yet there is room for relaxation when everything is dealt with. I also remember my brother telling me that Sunday that we should take our dog Paloma to get her yearly shots for Rabbies and what not. I was in complete awe of what was ahead of me for the next week but I prepared myself like a beast. I thought the best way to do the essay on the Anne Moudy Mississippi book that I had to read it before hand and I could half ass it either. So, I finished reading the book then I began writing the essay which wasn’t easy but it wasn’t difficult either. I wrote every word like I meant as I learned from there that you have to write every word with pride. I also planned something foolish as well which was to prepare my speech for Monday and know what I was going to say then do my Cold War paper the next day Tuesday. The preparation of the speech was the most challenging one because I had no idea how Dr.Ward would respond to my speech as I knew she had must have been exhausted from watching a great deal of speeches about a different variety of books. So, what I did was I had gone through the chapters the week before jotting down notes on what was important and how that it is related to the field of Psychology. I knew I should have done it while I was still reading the book but it worked out fine. Then came sunday which was one of my favorite days from last year. That day was special because not only did the Raiders come back that day and handle the Steelers a loss, but I saw my dog get her shots and got to see her interact with other dogs and that is always a treat because she rarely gets to do that. That day, I also got to close electronics which due to Anele, I was given the chance to show my skills and how I would handle it. I was proud of myself that day because I worked my ass off and I was ready the next day for my speech as I had done my best to at least memorize some parts of it and when I got home that night I looked at key parts once again and I started repeating them to myself. I remember I had just that class that day and I dawned my Arizona jeans with my anchor blue sweater and I got a haircut that my classmate Matt applauded me for. I felt nervous but when I got up there I felt comfortable and ready to speak. As soon as the first words popped out of my mouth, I was rolling and that had to be the most challenging part of that week because I couldn’t bear standing there and speaking but I ended up doing very well and getting a 115/120 total. My other papers seemed to be a breeze and I couldn’t put my finger on it but when I finished that finals week I felt I had done well enough to say that I’m doing well in life. I told myself after that, no matter what happens, this had to be one of the best things that could have happened to me. It’s always good to remember these old memories so if you ever find yourself in stressful situations, don’t put yourself down, if you keep getting knocked down, try again and you’ll be fine.

What keeps me motivated…

It’s been about two years since I was sitting in Tono Ramirez’s PHIL 1 class and we were discussing the potential of actual knowledge and reality and one day, I forget why now, he asked us what kept us coming back to school? I didn’t think about it at the time because I was having such a fun time basking in the glory of the Big Red Machine and it’s benefits if you will, (I was madly infatuated with this girl named Eunice at the time and I always looked foward to work and talking to my buddies John S., JB, Jimmy, Ricardo, Daniel, Gurmit, and others). Anyways, I didn’t think about it at the time but I always driven to learn something new and school did that for me. This is where I learned to enjoy and be enthralled with the knowledge of Philosophy, Psychology, Sociology, History, English, and a subject that I’ve come to enjoy Speech. Ever since then, the reason that I believe that keeps me going back to school is the ability to learn something new and exciting. But besides that, there is always the prospect of getting a better job down the line and making some room for myself to have a family as well. There are other things that keep me motivated to… well live life dangerously(not in that way though) and here they are:

1. I like meeting new people.

This one I like doing because as much as I like interacting with people, I enjoy talking with people one on one rather than in a group setting. At work and at school, they can come and go but the one’s you stick with are the ones who you know will not be plastic and fake to your face.

2. Wrestling.

Let’s face it, I’m a mark for wrestling, I enjoy the promos and the angles that they run but the wrestling is what pulls me in. The best thing about wrestling is how it mirrors real life whether it be in the stories they tell in the ring or the angles they run on the show because I see myself emotionally connected to the wrestlers themselves or seeing how it may just be fun stuff as a whole. I hope one day wrestling will boom again because I’ve been a wrestling since 1993 and if people get on that train again, I can say I was there when it was good and bad.

3. My family.

I love my family, I feel I’m letting them down if I call off from work for some inept reason or if I’m sick because I can’t hold it within myself to miss anything that is hurting them as well. As I’ve gotten older I’ve seen that they need help with money and I find it hard to at least give them a bit of money every month to help them out. They also push me to try harder in life and in school as well.

4. Music.

Music is something I love, every day I wake up to music on my IPOD Touch listening to a song I’ve put on there whenever it was as I’ve made it one of my goals in life to prusue the discovery of new music and new artists as well. These past two yeasr I’ve disocvered The Clash, Billy Joel, Cuisillos, 98 Degrees, The Mamas and the Papas, and one of my favorites that probably no one has ever heard of Felipe Arriaga.

5. My Dog

Yes, Paloma keeps me motivated, ever since I got her I’ve loved her ever since because every night I come home there she is jumping in joy to see me and you can’t get that every night from everybody so when I see it, I can only smile deep down inside and wonder, wow if an animal loves me like that, then I’ve done well in life.

Well, happy joy everyone and enjoy your weekend.