Tag: Mom

las cosas tienen su tiempo y yo
lo lleve temprano,porque querer
tanto a los hijos,algunos padres
fallamos en lugar de darles todo
porqe no los preparamos

-Los Tigres del Norte "Le Compre la muerte a mi hijo"

Parents, what can I say? When you are having a great time with them but when you have your share of differences with them,
you can't stand them. This year, and a little bit after I realized we were struggling financially, my parents started being
more negative about there money situation and I tried my best to not fall into the same trap. I remember when we didn't have
to pay for so many luxuries like a car, car insurance, and utility bills being so high. Yet, I've also seen that growing up
my parents did their best to provide with everything they could. They didn't make the best money nor will they ever but they taught
me a lot about life and also bought in when I wanted to have something. I can make a huge list of all the dumb things I ever asked
my parents for and it still would not justify all the great contributions they made for me. I remember my dad paid for me to go to
science camp in 5th grade up in Saratoga Walden West and we were late on the payments yet he still managed to give the school money. My
mom was also able to make some great sacrifices in my early years as she took me to work with her a few days during summer days.
I didn't do much except help my mom move things in the rooms where she would be working and I would just watch TV most of the
time. I would usually go with her in the morning to take the bus all the way to Palo Alto and I was excited to take those
long bus rides because I saw some cool stuff along the way like some friends that had taken a bus back from where we were
going. My parents were much more active back in the day but now I can see that they are getting old and they prepared me for the
challenges I face today. They taught me to choose my friends wisely and they also acknowledged when and if my friends were
good influences on me. I remember my friend from my old condos would always want to hang out on a Friday or Saturday and
my parents would give their approval if I should go out or not. They would have the money back then to actually give me and
I would spend some money that night on food or going to the mall. I appreciated that a lot and I try my best to give back
to them as best I can. You may always go back to the altar crying and complaining about the money that you are giving your
parents but they didn't complain when they gave it to you. Also, when I didn't drive my mom and myself would go the movies taking
the old #57 bus here in San Jose and going to AMC Saratoga to see a movie I wanted to see and we always enjoyed ourselves.
I miss those times because it was convenient to go to the movies on a weekend and there was never any problem with it either
as she enjoyed the time we spent together. She would take me out to eat and sometimes we would just eat at home. I can honestly
say that seeing that made me realize that my mom did what she did to keep me happy. I didn't keep in close contact with
many of my old friends from before and this is around that time when she would take me to a lot of places even if it was
on the bus. I guess she tried her best to tell me that your friends may leave you but I won't. We don't hang out as much anymore
but I wish we could again someday. Now, she comes home exhausted from working and I can understand that she is tired and
she is trying to pay all the bills we have. Hopefully, once we get all our marbles together maybe this year her and I can go to Mexico and
her native Zacactecas which I always enjoy going to because it's been a while for me but a lot longer for her. Now, my dad
is unique and special to me. He isn't the active, fast paced let's go out animal he was a few years ago and yet I believe
it's because of his age and all the pressures he faces from working so much for so little. I helped him out all I could
when he went on a job search about a year ago and it felt somewhat difficult because he wasn't a native english speaker. I
told him to hang in there and I too paid for food and what not when I could in that time. The reason he is so special to me
is because like my mom he too tried his best his entire life to give me all he could. There have been numerous times where
he has cooked food for me and he didn't have to but he did anyway. He is a big drinker and whenever he drinks he ends up 
pretty wasted but I learned from my dad that drinking to him is a way of escaping and I thought to myself why do it if that's
the only way you'll do it. I understood why he did it but I also learned that being around people like that (my brother and 
his friends and also a few friends of mine) allows you to see that all they want to do is have fun in life and I'm all for
having fun in life. If that's their way of acting out there fun then I say all the power to them because I try my best to make
sure whenever my friends or my brother's friends need a ride home I can be there so that they don't end up doing something 
dumb at the end of the night. My parents have taught me one important lesson as well:Having less money than you did before
allows to bond together and have a common cause. For a while here, I thought we were doing all right with our house payments
and all the other crazy bills we get here at home. However, once we started suffering financially and economically, we had to get our heads
together and figure out solutions for things. In my class yesterday, my professor for History made an interesting point in saying that when 
you're struggling you bond together as a family and when you're having the good times role everyone just goes there own way. 
For a while, I thought that's how I saw it and I could see it when I saw my mom every other four days and I would only see
my dad a little bit every day. Even my brother and myself, who I had been close with for a long time but we drifted apart for 
a while, went our own ways for a bit but this year we have been talking on a more consistent basis because you may not love
your family everyday but when you get older they will be the ones that will be with you in the end. Now, I have a better 
relationship with my parents and with my brother because we have seen each other grow and change as well. I tell my mom that
life is better when you don't have a lot of money and she doesn't believe it but we all have our beliefs. I have a good time
talking to my dad and we share a lot of things in common these days. If it wasn't for my parents, I probably would just be
lost and confused about who I am and I thank them for that. Good day to all and have a good weekend! Here's something that made
makes me think nostalgia: