What does a great conversation entail us to do or say? Usually, we allow ourselves for one person to bring up a topic or we allow ourselves to reach a common topic that we are both interested in. It is amazing, however, that I want to believe that ever since one of my good friends told me a few months back that I could make friends easily if I wanted to, I could. The only problem is that sometimes, actually most of the time, I get the usual “you’re too quiet”, “you’re so shy”, or my favorite is “just keep doing what you’re doing”. I understand that those three sayings describe me as a person but when it comes to having great conversations, I mix all three of these into one. Last Saturday, I had the opportunity to have an extensive chat with a co-worker of mine who is very beautiful in her own right and is great to talk to. Usually, when I work with her I get a bit nervous because I don’t know what we can talk about so I just usually bring up whatever. The conversation started out with us just talking about how she has her life planned out until Valentine’s day, and how in a few days she was going to start working out and all this left me a bit overwhelmed. I was shocked to hear her talk about her high school life and how much of a nerd she was going into her Junior, Freshman, and Sophmore years. It made me realize that this girl can be comfortable around guys because she can be so much more easy going than she is around girls. I started hearing her story about how she unfortunately had to leave work the night before leaving me behind to do most of the work myself. I understood why she had to leave and if I was in her shoes I probably would have left as well. She spoke about how her boyfriend had had an allergic reaction to some medication and how she doesn’t like being around hospitals because the people in those places upset her so much. But, the most interesting part of this conversation to me was when she said “Yesterday was my day to be a girl.” That left me dumbfounded because I see her as being smart and being somewhat of an underachiever in life because she spoke about how before in high school she would never get below a 3.5. I asked myself, “What does being a girl mean to her?” I’m guessing in my mind that because she was panicking a little the night before we had this conversation that she thought that she was being a girl but doesn’t that happen to all of us? I’m sure there have been times in our lives where some great moments have happened in our lives and we were filled with excitement but then there were others where we felt like the world was crumbling down on us. I was glad to hear that everything turned out well for her and I realized that being a girl for her just maybe means that she got a bit emotional. I was interested to hear that she was a bit upset that her best friend from high school had had a baby shower that day and unfortunately was not invited. She believed that the reason that she was not invited was because her boyfriend was being controlling and yet she had caught him flirting with other women allegedly. It was an interesting conversation to say the least at that point and it made me realize that if you want to get to know anyone, you come to them and you let them speak out. I know she may never read this nor do I intend for her to read this, but I want to say Thank You to this girl because she allowed herself to speak her mind. I respect girls that I can have decent conversations with and this one was no different.
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Just Another Day... 